Countdown to ‘O’ Levels – 5 Ways To Influence Your Child To Improve Their Grades Without Having to Scream at Them
“How To Motivate Your Teenage Child to study for ‘O’ Levels RIGHT NOW without SCREAMING AT THEM”
Before I show you how to motivate your teenage child, let’s do something many students, parents and Teachers are ignoring.
Let me show you how your child should prepare his or her study notes so that whatever information they need to remember gets..
Devoured by the brain!
Check out this page for example.
Ignore the actual content for a minute and notice how it “feels” to your eyes.
As you can see, it’s easy to read.
It’s punchy. It has short sentences.? And best of all …
It Has Short Paragraphs!
And that’s really important because when your eye first “scans” the page, it calls up your brain and says,?“Hey! this is easy to read!”
And your brain, in turn, decides to check it out.
Another cool thing about this article is that it’s telling two stories at once.
These “Sub-Heads” Tell A Story Of Their Own!
Scroll up to the top real quick and just read the subheads.
You can get complete “picture” of what this is all about just by scanning them …without actually reading the text.
The reason it’s important is because
Everybody Skims The Page
Before Their Brain Commits To Reading It!
That’s totally normal.
And what’s the main thing that jumps out at the “scanning brain”?
That’s right. It’s the headline and the sub head.
So what’s really going on is
These Sub-Heads Are “Motivating” The Brain
On The Idea Of Reading The Whole Page!
But Many Students Ignore the Sub Topics and Jump Straight Into the Text!
And if students ignore sub topics, their brain naturally become un-motivated to read.
Again. See how easy this is to read?
And this is something that most schools do not do!
They do not organise information in a “brain friendly” manner!
They cram every information into giant paragraphs, tonnes and tonnes of words, alphabets numbers mashed up together. Equations, formulas, scientific definitions like for e.g the definition of compounds is two or more elements that are chemically combined and definition of elements which is substances that cannot be broken down into simpler substances by any chemical methods, all into this paragraph.
Your brain probably missed the above paragraph!
But that contained important stuff for exams!
No wonder most students find text books and notes BORING!
And here’s another thing about this article.
See the article isn’t really about “motivating your child”.
This Article Is Really About?YOU!
And more specifically, it’s about?you influencing your teenage child’s decision to study without having to nag at them every day, so that you will hopefully have more FREE TIME and you will enjoy a BETTER RELATIONSHIP with your child.
So now that we’ve shown you how to let your children love their notes and get their attention, let us show you
“5 Ways? To Influence Your Child To Improve Their Grades
Without Having to Scream at Them” (So You Have More Free Time For Your Own Stuff)
1. First, make sure everything you say, is about?…YOUR?CHILD!
Listen, as much as we want them to be fascinated by us parents, our story, how we did or did not do well in school, or how other people did well in school and ended up with a well paying job, the fact is?they don’t care about that.
They care about THEMSELVES
so?everything you say needs to always “tie in” to how it can help THEM.
This is the reason why Facebook, Twitter, Instagram is so popular among teenagers.
Because it is all about expressing….yes you are right . THEMSELVES
2. Even more important than “THEM” is?their RESULTS.
For example, if this article was all about ME and how great of a teacher I am, you’d leave, right?
And if I made it all about YOU and how YOU can talk to your child, you might read some of it …but you’d ultimately leave?because you know that already.
But you’re still here and you’re still here for one reason: We’re talking about the RESULTS YOU WANT.
In this case, we’re talking about how to influence your child.
Doing that leads to them taking ACTION, and action lead to GRADES.
And that’s probably why you’re here, right?
3. Use the magic words ,“so you can”.
If you want to actually motivate, you need to explain how the benefit?directly relates to the results?your child wants to get.
The?“so you can” language pattern?is perfect for this.
Here’s an example.
Let’s say you’re trying to tell your child to be disciplined, study hard, so he will have a good future.
Now, most parents would say something like this:
“Son. You need to be disciplined. Study hard and get good grades!?Next time when you grow up you will know. If only I have studied harder in the past, I would have become MP or CEO and will have higher pay. Look at Mr Tan, he is successful now because he studied hard in the past. Our society is very practical. You need to have good grades.?”
And most parents would repeat the above numerous times.
Now. That’s?FAIR?…but let’s use the magic words and change the reference to the Child instead of ourselves or another person. Let’s re-write the sentences.
“Son, discipline is important as this makes it easy for you to study and get good grades. You get good grades so?you can have more options in the future.?You can choose to be a doctor, lawyer or entrepreneur which is entirely up to you. You will have control over your life so you can be happy.?
4. Address skepticism head on.
Most parents try to gloss over this.
That’s a surefire way to decrease response and obliterate trust because it’s like trying to ignore a giant elephant in the room.
You both know it’s there and you pretend it’s invisible.
The best approach is the “you might be wondering” language pattern.
It works like this:
First, you identify the main area of skepticism.
In this example, let’s say you’re trying to influence your child to get A ?…and the child’s main area of skepticism is that he thinks it will be too hard because he has never gotten anything better than C.
The next step is to address this objection by framing it as a question he might be having?using the classic “Feel, Felt, Found Pattern.”
“Son.?You might be wondering?how you’re going to get A while you are managing C so far.”
“I know exactly how you?feel.
In fact, I was told many students felt?the same way when they started!
But a few months ago, I spoke to your Teachers and they gave me examples of students who turned their grades around.
The students were able to improve in a matter of months, and found it was so possible!
In fact, it was actually fun as they learn in a group!”
5. Tell them what to do next.
Everything you tell your child should have a desired end result that can be translated into a process.
It could be to start a daily routine. It could be to get him or her to join a tuition class.
Whatever it is, you need to explicitly tell them to do it, and?why.
“Son. There is a neat countdown clock that I saw.
It shows the amount of time left before the start of ‘O’ Levels.
And it is ticking.
It does not stop whether you are sleeping, or eating or playing.
Are you prepared? You can be.
Typically by yourself, it takes 8 hours to master a chapter to get A1.
With an experienced tutor, probably half the time or less.
For example if the subject Chemistry have 20 chapters, you will need 160 hours.
Now if you have 160 days left (refer to the clock), that will mean you have to put in 1 hour per day.
I am sure you know what you need to do.
If you need any help in doing planning or finding a tutor, just let me know.
There is still time.”
P.S. There is a reason why this article was written.
The primary reason was to show parents how easy it can be to influence your child without being naggy. We have taught countless students and the number one complain from students is none other than naggy parents making students detest studying.
If you follow these steps, you can motivate your child to do almost anything …..all designed to?genuinely help your child while simultaneously creating goodwill, building trust, and giving you additional free time once they are on “auto” mode.
The journey to getting good grades can be an adventure that both parents and child can share. It need not be a chore by your child alone.
Lastly here is a quote from Winston Churchill.
Wishing you all the best!
“Continuous effort – not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential.”